Three Self-Compassion Myths

Three Self-Compassion Myths

People talk a lot about self-compassion these days, but most people don’t know what it means.

Just a couple of generations ago, people thought that life was hard, very hard, and that was it.

Men worked all day and night, while women took care of the home and family.

When the rooster crowed, husbands and wives woke up. When the sun went down, they went to sleep.

They did this every day and barely had any time for themselves.

Myth 1: Self-compassion is a passing fad

Today, though, we know ourselves better than ever. Humanity has grown and changed. Now, we are aware creators of our own lives who also want to make a difference in the lives of others. Self-help and self-improvement used to be a treat, but now they are part of our everyday lives.
But one of the biggest myths is that self-compassion is just a buzzword or a passing trend. A lot of work in the fields of personal development and psychology shows that being kind to yourself has long-term benefits. There are many benefits to practicing self-compassion, but here are the two most important ones:
Being kind to ourselves makes us feel better, work better, and have a better time. Being kind to ourselves in the everyday moments of life helps us stop expecting others to do things for us.

Myth Number Two: Being kind to yourself is selfish

Many people feel selfish when they do things just for themselves that make them happy and don’t involve anyone else. This is not true at all; when we do things for ourselves, we make ourselves happy. If you kept a journal of how many times you were hard on yourself during the day, you would be surprised. When you practice self-compassion, there are many good things that happen:
You have a more positive and optimistic outlook on life. You feel less anger, resentment, and stress. You are more pleasant to be around and a good example for others.
• A happier, more empathetic way of thinking makes the mind, body, and spirit healthier.
We take care of ourselves so that other people don’t have to always comfort, feed, and care for us. When life throws us a curveball, we all need other people. However, we can practice self-compassion every day to fight the negative thoughts in our heads.
We all have a critic inside us, and when we use self-compassion to challenge those thoughts, we are better off.

Myth 3: Only spiritual people can have self-compassion.

Being spiritual, religious, or new age has nothing to do with self-compassion. Self-compassion produces results. Think about being in a meeting or working on a project when something goes wrong (as things often do). The project will go in a different direction if you spend your time, energy, and most of all attention on fixing problems and troubleshooting instead of on yourself. It not only changes the way things go, but it also changes how things turn out.
You can improve your life by asking your inner critic a few questions:

Does this make sense?

Is it true that I criticize myself?

Am I a mistake or did I simply make a mistake?

How can I grow and learn from this?

How can I use this to quickly get back on my feet and make a better choice?

You can see that self-compassion makes sense when we stand up to that inner critic.

Look at your life and see where you can challenge your inner critic, bust these myths, and change things.

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